Bring on the Chaos

Here’s where things get a little chaotic..

After the Chris situation, I went a little crazy trying to fill the void he left. There is no right or wrong way to get over someone. Unfortunately, there is no manual that says how to move on.. but if there was, I strongly believe it would say something like:

Step One: Eat 1 pint of Ben and Jerry’s Chubby Hubby ice cream.

Step Two: Drink 1 (or 3, pending tolerance) of your favorite bottle(s) of Rose.

Step Three: Re-open the dating apps you’ve been avoiding and continuously swipe right to receive some instant gratification.

Step Four: Set up multiple dates with whoever will ask you so that you can put real clothes on again, get out of the sweats you’ve been living in, feel pretty, and get back into civilization.

Also, in these moments of self-pity and sadness, I must say, it is important to have a strong support system. Whether it be family, a girl gang, one best friend, co-workers, WHOEVER. These are the most important people to have in your corner while mending a broken heart. They are their to remind you who you are. To remind you, you are an amazing person who will find someone who deserves you. They are the people who will trash talk your ex til the cows come home (which is really what you need most 😉). They will also be crucial in helping you hold on to your self-respect, when you want to break down and text the asshole that broke you. Not going to lie to you guys, whenever some guy hurts me (typically by ghosting) and I want so badly to text them just one more time, I have my best friend send me a “DO NOT TEXT HIM” message to snap me back to reality. No joke. It really works! Let someone else help to hold you accountable.

Alright, let’s continue.

Like I eluded to before, here is where things go a little haywire. My swiping finger was on O-VER-DRIVE. I went on first date, after first date, after first date (maybe about 10 if we want to get technical here). Nothing really panned out too much. I dated a construction worker, a teacher, a basketball player, an interior designer, an actor or two, and a neighbor. Just really trying to expand my horizons and be well-rounded here. Nothing wrong with that, right? With most of them there was not much connection, some fizzled out after date number two, and some ghosted me and left me on read because apparently communication is just too much to ask for.

Silverlining? I got to wear some new clothes, eat some good food, and meet some new people!