Mix your Cocktails Not your Signals
So, what really are mixed signals? I’m sure we’ve all dated that guy who has lied through his teeth. Someone who has said one thing and done another. Not to say that some guys aren’t just lying assholes. But, sometimes I think we are also guilty of hearing what we want to hear versus what is actually being said. Sometimes there is no way to see the reality, until you are removed from it.
Hear me out for a second…
Let’s relate this to trailmix (because it’s a mixed up jumble of everything and it’s the only snack I can come up with at the moment, so roll with it). In hindsight, ask yourself; were his signals truly mixed? Or, were you pushing aside the pretzels and only eating the M&Ms? (okay I may be hungry and taking this trail mix analogy a little too far.. but it makes sense, doesn’t it?!). Think about it. When you like someone, you tend to put your blinders on and only see the good. Hence the M&M reference. Everyone loves M&Ms. M&Ms make people happy. You dive in that bag and push aside everything else. I mean, why acknowledge the bad signs and signals (aka the pretzels), when the good things make you feel so much better?
Well here’s why. I hate to break it to you girlfriend, but ignoring the bad things, doesn’t make them go away. It only makes it hurt worse when the bad things come to a head after having ignored them for so long. And then, all you’re left with is a broken heart, a head full of confusion, and a bag of full of pretzels. And all you want are your M&Ms back.
(Ps I know some of you are thinking, “ but wait, I love pretzels though”..and in that case, I just cant help you here. Eat the whole dang bag and be blissfully content. To each their own, I’m just not a pretzel gal)
Moral of the story: It’s okay to enjoy the good things. It’s okay to believe the guy when he says something sweet. It’s okay to give him the benefit of the doubt sometimes. But, it’s also important not to ignore what is right in front of you. If he says he’ll call and he doesn’t, believe that too. If he says he’s not ready for a relationship, believe him. If he says he will change and he doesn’t, believe him.
His actions will speak very loudly if you unmute your heart.