Quality Vs Quantity
I guess this title is a bit ironic as this entire blog revolves around the many men I date. However, through dating these men, I’ve realized something very important.
How many of you have experienced the embarrassment that follows a breakup pending the amount of time you “dated” the person? Do you ever find yourself feeling like you need to make the relationship sound longer-lived in order to justify why you’re upset? You catch yourself saying; “We dated for a few months, but we talked every day”. There is always a “but” thrown in because you feel like you have to defend the relationship. Sometimes you will meet people who have been with their partner for 10 years, and anything less seems less worthy of significance.
What I have found is, you could have a better connection with a man you’ve known for 5 minutes, than with the man you have known for 5 years. The length of the relationship does not matter. It’s the undeniable, unique, and electrifying connection that does. No shame in that. Let’s get rid of the stigma that says, the longer the relationship the more value it holds.
Your relationships are uniquely yours. You get to define their significance in your own life. If you want to cry over the Starbucks barista that spelled your name wrong on your cup after you’ve been going to him every Sunday morning for your coffee, go ahead. If you want to drink a bottle of wine to get over the guitar-playing guy that you went out with once and spent days dreaming of singing together at dive bars around the city, go ahead. If you want to break off your engagement with the man you’ve been dating for three years because something doesn’t feel quite right, go ahead.
My point it, this is your life. Do not let other people dictate your happiness. In the end, it’s your life to live. You want to be able to get to the end of your life and feel like you lived it to the best of your ability with no regrets. The moment you let go of the judgements and expectations of others, you will begin to truly live, and you’ll feel a heck of a lot lighter doing it.